we’ve got so many original wedding decoration and wedding table ideas that’ll help you put your very own stamp on your big day.Think personalised prosecco coasters, vintage scrabble place names and vases with a twist. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at In honor of Wedding Week on Dear Wendy, I’m re-posting this helpful list, originally published on February 6, of a bunch of wedding must-haves you can totally skip if you want, no matter what your grandmother or best friend (or, ahem, Gator Girl) says. Despite what some people may say, a wedding website is not necessary — even for weddings with more than ten guests. And creating one does increase the odds of getting stuff you actually want and will use. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. You know who will be sad if you don’t give a handful of your guests special titles and make them dress in matching outfits? You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. Bridesmaids, groomsmen, a Maid-of-Honor, a best man, a ring bearer, flower girl, blah, blah, freaking blah. Four years ago today, I got engaged on a snowy bridge in Central Park on a Friday evening after work. In fact, there were plenty of things we didn’t have and didn’t do that lots of people, “experts” and concerned citizens alike, proclaim are wedding must-haves. Now, if someone in your life wants to throw one of these for you — or, in my case, surprises you with one — enjoy yourself and be genuinely appreciative. Make a playlist on your i Phone — or whatever you use — and hook it up to a portable speaker and be done with it. You know what people did in the olden days before the internet? But you know what will happen if you buck tradition and skip a registry altogether? Five months later, Drew and I were married in a sunny garden in Central Park on a Friday morning surrounded by about 70 of our closest friends and family. And yet, despite our apparent missteps as planners, we had a beautiful wedding — one that some of our guests still count among their favorites, several years later. But don’t think just because you don’t have these parties that your wedding will be any less special or your marriage any less valid. They included all necessary information on the invitation and answered the phone when people called with potential questions. I wore a dress I bought on e Bay for about a hundred dollars. For any of you stressing about all the details you’ve been told you have to include in your wedding, here are 20 wedding “must-haves” we happily skipped — or could have skipped — and you can too (if you want! We sent an email to people as soon as we had a date and venue picked out. Because you’re already getting a party with gifts and attention and accolades. And people will already be spending enough time and money to be there for you.
Go to Youtube and see how easy it is to pick up some flowers at a wholesale market or even a drugstore and make your own bouquet.
Or individual flutes of chocolate mousse that people can clink together for a “toast.” Or, if you really want a cake-cake, go to a bakery, order a large sheet cake and have them write your names and wedding date on the top.
Or a dress you find after going to a million bridal stores.
No one’s going to miss not having pastel-clored M&Ms with your initials in a little baggies tied with a ribbons in the color of your wedding placed lovingly on their dinner plates. If you decide to use a professional makeup artist, have some photos to show the makeup person for inspiration, and make sure you do a practice run beforehand or you may end up looking like a Dolly Parton drag queen in your wedding photos. You’ll remember who was at your wedding through photos and cards you’ll save.
Old people, maybe disabled people, and the pregnant ladies. And if there’s not, then people could have sent their regrets and we would have understood. I wanted to look like myself, not like what some stranger thought a bride should look like. It’s fine if you want one, but if you don’t, just skip it. One way or another, guests will find a place to sit. And you’ll probably have fewer grey hairs to cover up on the big day.