More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus. That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date. As to the “why” behind the lack of date-nights, nearly 60 percent say they don’t need a relationship to be happy. More than 40 percent said they were considering it, but not actually doing it.
It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story.1. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. But every day I coach women like you through situations they wish they didn't get into. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.
It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right?
Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better. Your 25-year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. This keeps you open to someone who might not be your type. Keep your body language open, play with your hair, smile, touch his arm.
The grown-up dater gives him a reasonable amount of time to show up, and then says a big “So what! Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants. (Because after all, your type hasn't worked or you would be reading this.)5.
If you are dealing with a grown-up man he will appreciate and respect you for it.