Dating can be exhilarating, exhausting, everything in between — and something we’ve all got a lot to say about.
Whenever we post a story about the single life, without fail the comment section offers smart takes on the ups and downs of putting yourself out there, falling in love and breaking up. On unexpected questions: “I was recently on a first date with a guy who asked, ‘What’s one personality trait you hope other people pick up on about you?
’ It caught me off-guard, but it led to my taking a moment to think about what I like about myself.
I told him I wanted other people to see me as someone who is present and lives in the moment.
He then asked if I was living in the moment right then with him.
It was a kind of sexy, intimate exchange.” — Susie On fun activities: “My best first date began with a trip to the movies.
I think too often we think that being ‘feminist’ translates into being relaxed about marriage and kid timelines, ‘seeing where things go,’ and not having high expectations of the people we’re with.” — Bea On date prep: “My friend and I had this ritual of singing ‘Eye of the Tiger’ to each other over the phone before a first date to help calm each other’s nerves.” — Jenny On being yourself: “On my first date with my fiancé, I brought up this old (slightly embarrassing) video game about dogs that I played as a child and said that I wanted to track it down.
After blurting that out, I immediately regretted it. But then he told me that he had bought that same game on a whim just two months earlier.
On our second date (the very next day), we played it together on his front porch.” — Sasha “When I was starting to date after my divorce, I felt this horrible need to apologize for the ‘complications’ of my life. If I’m hiding who I am from the person I want to love me, who are they really loving, anyway?
’ (I’m 38 years old, by the way; the learning never stops.
Also, three cheers for good therapists.) The relationship I’m in now is so different: I feel loved for who I am, all of me, even the difficult parts.