(which isn't that great but man, that was, like, the dream of the '90s) or because I was obsessed with coding as a teen (shut up, I was so cool, you guys) or because I work too much or because I'm hardly ever at bars unless I'm performing and even then, when someone hits on me it's like throwing flirtation into the wind and hoping it lands somewhere near my brain. Seriously, if I had a dime for every time a friend told me, "Lane, they were hitting on you!!!
" or even, "Lane, they're totally in love with you and have been for over eight years," I'd have at least 70 cents, maybe 90.
I just don't pick up on it unless you literally say, "Hello, I like your face and body. Don't post a photo of your face that is not your actual face.
I would like to go somewhere with your face and body with the intent to date or have sex with you."Point is, I guess I just always assumed that the traditional meet-cutes of movies and TV were bullshit unless you were super outgoing and out at bars every single night, or if you were a fancy lawyer with no time for dating but then one day your heel gets stuck in a street grate. When I started online dating, it was fantastic in most ways. We all have that one ridiculous angle that makes us look like we're Angelina Jolie in her prime (which was , BTW), and that's great, but if this person can't recognize you when you meet in person because in person you look more like Wednesday Addams, choose another photo. If they make you feel sexy and happy, take 'em every second. You're just starting out, so it's OK to only reveal a little bit because you have no idea who these people are or how this thing works and it's kind of scary!
And one looks like Channing Tatum (That's someone people like, right? You don't have to keep talking to someone if it's not fun anymore. Some examples: "I'd love to stay and chat but I have to be up super early tomorrow so maybe another time!
I've absolutely been messaging with people and it was going well for one or two emails and then I was getting really bored or they weren't giving me much to work with or I realized that this person was like talking to literally anyone. I'm giving you the advice it took me years to learn.
They weren't a jerk but they also weren't someone I absolutely Had to Meet either. I know I sound like a guidance counselor but seriously, I've had people I've never met before ask me to just come to their place for the first time we met and maybe it would've been fine, but also it's legit scary to be a woman, and if they're worth my time, they'll understand why I don't wanna go to a stranger's house when they might be that murderer from 1–10000. It may seem obvious but I spent sooooo many dates just being bored out of my mind or sometimes even just hating this person, but trying to make the most of it.
If that's the case, it's OK to just stop responding.
You could cast a wide net and sign up for every single dating site.