INTPs are often kind and considerate, wanting everyone to feel included and treated with respect (Fe).
These functions contribute to their wittiness, personability, and sincerity, conferring a childlike innocence that others find refreshing.
Drenth While sometimes presenting as aloof or self-focused, INTPs often attract potential mates through their Extraverted Intuition (Ne) and Extraverted Feeling (Fe).
They are slow to speak negatively of others, able to forgive and forget what other types might find offensive.
Such qualities, combined with their intelligence and ambitiousness, can be of great appeal to prospective partners.
Because of their Fe inferior, the INTP can enjoy being around people.
Despite this relative independence, there invariably comes a time when their inferior function (Fe) beckons them to be around people.
This may involve feelings of emptiness or loneliness, alerting them to the fact that their independent projects may, in and of themselves, be insufficient for achieving the deeper sense of wholeness and contentment they desire.
This tug-of-war between their Ti and Fe is a central and recurrent dilemma for INTPs.
At some level, INTPs feel like they need people and want an intimate relationship, while on another, they are afraid of losing themselves and their cherished freedom if they commit. Most partners are reluctant to grant them the degree of freedom and autonomy they desire, leading them to try to control the INTP.
This of course, prompts the INTP to rebel, which causes the relationship to take a turn for the worse.