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More times than not, I come off as anything and nothing at the same time.From left: Looking "Chinese" at Homecoming in high school, looking "Mexican" for the 16th of September Most people think it's pretty cool, a friend recently told me that I could probably pass for most any ethnicity and although that may be the case, this characteristic is not as cool when all you want to do is look Asian or Hispanic to fit in or when members of your family criticize your body for being too big, too small or too flat.Noel Duan recently wrote a great article for titled "'Fat For An Asian': The Pressure To Be Naturally Perfect" in which she discusses the pressure that she (as an Asian) is under to be thin.She ends her piece saying that all women's experiences are different but she knows she's not the only one feeling the pressure to be perfect.She isn't the only one and by straddling two different cultures with very different standards of beauty and perfection I have learned the hard way that you can never win.By being accepted and rejected by both of my cultures I have come to that age-old conclusion that the only way to be beautiful is to be yourself and that 'perfection' is a socially and culturally constructed ideal that is impossible to achieve, no matter how beautiful you may be.It was not easy to come to this realization, however.I can remember being nine years old and visiting my family in Hong Kong.I remember greeting my grandmother and being met with "hao fei," or "so fat." For years I dreaded going to Hong Kong because I knew that my weight would be a source of shame and criticism.Once my mother and I went to buy accessories for my hair at a local shop and I remember hearing women commenting on my weight, calling me fat and sneering at my appearance. Me and my beautiful Mexican cousins My mother would tell me to ignore them, that they were ignorant and mean and that I was beautiful as a Latina, but even within my Mexican family I didn't fit in.I remember running around with my Mexican cousins and slowly growing up, witnessing their bodies growing: their breasts getting larger and their waists getting smaller while I stayed relatively square and short-waisted.