Dear Jim: I AM A RECENT WIDOW AND WANT TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE ANY SPECIFIC DATING ADVICE FOR ME?
I am pleased at the “peace” you have regarding your husband and his presence with our Lord.
While it does not remove many of the things you are learning to deal with, it is a great gift.
Before you entertain dating, I do have some suggestions for you.
Seek support of friends The first thing that I strongly suggest is finding one or more Christian women with whom you can build a deep, supporting relationship where there is also complete accountability to one another.
You will find that much of the intimacy you desire can be found in some real “buddies”.
These women will also help you keep your perspective and emotions in check WHEN you begin to relate to men in dating.
Get a ‘check-up’ If available, I would find a good Christian counsellor and ask for a “check-up” of your emotional, psychological, etc. This can be a BIG help to you as we often cannot see things within us that can cause difficulties as we relate to others.
If a counsellor is not available, then I would suggest discussing this with your Pastor. You will find those (perhaps many) who will encourage you to move on with life as a widower and begin dating as soon as possible.