, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
But, if you’re the kind of guy who reads , we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?’” — Kristen, 27 The problem…and the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.The scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but…’” — Randi, 25 The problem…and the solution: We get it.A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.The scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a bet going. ” — Kristin, 26 The problem…and the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. The scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30 The problem…and the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully.